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10 Things Every Indian Man Must Stand Up For Before He Decides To Marry
There's something terribly wrong with Indian marriages. Forget equality, we cannot even be sure if the 'typical' Indian marriage can boast of something as basic as mutual respect between two partners. We know, the nation is awakening towards issues like women empowerment and equality, but there's still a long way to go. The Indian law deems any man above the age of 21 fit to get married, but truth be told, you're not fit to be a husband until you fully understand what marriages are and more importantly, what they're not. For the betterment of yourself, the woman you're going to marry, and the society you're going to raise your kids in, here are 10 things you must stand up for before you decide to tie the knot.
1. Dowry isn't always demanded by 'torturing' the bride. There are subtler ways of putting forth your demands and the 'ladke wale' in India flaunt this skill with pride. Your parents may drop hints to the girl's family about the 'things' (read refrigerator, furniture, car, etc) their house desperately needs. Make it stop. Even if the girl's family seems comfortable and willing to disguise the dowry as 'gifts' for the sake of their daughter, you must take a stand against it. It is high time we get rid of even those religious and regional customs that promote the dowry system in any way. The moment you let your parents demand dowry (in any form), you become an equal partner in crime.
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2. No matter how much we may have broadened our minds, even today, a woman's virginity seems to be a big deal for Indian men. While they may themselves have been sexually active previously, it is impossible for them to accept the to-be bride's past relationships. Not just that, women are constantly judged and 'evaluated' on their fairness, height, weight and the size of their assets. Before you decide to get married, make sure you're free of such regressive notions. A woman is much more than her body. And, it is not shameful for a man to be married to a woman taller than him. It is your mind and soul that need a match, not your height.
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3. It's so deeply imbibed in the Indian culture that the girl's parents would bear all the wedding expenses; most of us don't even realize how much undue pressure it is upon them. Just because you're marrying their girl doesn't mean they owe you a lavish celebration you can boast to your family and friends about. This is as much a social evil as the dowry system. You must either share the expenses or settle in for a simple affair that both the parties can afford.
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4. A lot of young men end up going bankrupt, spending all of their savings on their weddings, just to live up to the society's expectations. Is it really worth it? Now, we're not saying you shouldn't celebrate but you must know the importance of hard earned money in adult life. Don't spend to impress others; it's never going to be enough. Of course, if you can afford it, you must celebrate and spend to your heart's delight. But if you're a young, self-made man who wouldn't seek his parent's financial help, you'd much rather opt in for a plain, affordable wedding and save the rest of the money for your future use. Firstly, because it's really going to help you live a comfortable life ahead, and secondly, because giving in to societal pressures is never worth it. Your wedding doesn't need to be better than your friends' or cousins'. It's your wedding, do it your way. Don't spend a fortune on it and regret later.
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5. It is not only unfair but extremely regressive of a man to expect his wife to change her second name after marriage. She can be as much a part of your family even with her original name retained. Her willingness to get her name changed is no measure of how dedicated a wife and how 'cultured' a woman she is, which is why it shouldn't be a concern at all. Moreover, she has a lot of emotions attached to her name - it has been a part of her identity all her life. Just because she is married now, doesn't mean she shall lose all individuality. If you're still not convinced, ask yourself if you'd ever be willing to change your name to hers after getting married.
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6. It is strange how convenient it is for an Indian man to make his wife stay with his family without having to give anything up himself. When a girl agrees to leave her home and live with you for the rest of her life, you owe her equal respect and love towards her family. Instead of making her distant from her family, promise to spend equal amount of time with her parents as she does with yours or be willing to move in with her parents. The society desperately needs an example of a truly equal marriage. Be that change!
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7. It is high time we let go of gender roles in a marriage. You'd have to put in equal effort to make it work. Help her with the household chores just as she helps you with the finances. Looking after the house shall be as much of your responsibility as it is hers. Doing the dishes or getting the groceries or cleaning the house wouldn't make you any less of a man. It's only going to make you a better husband.
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8. Do not marry just to have children. Marrying for the wrong reasons can ruin lives - yours, your wife's, your parents' and more importantly, your kids'. Having said that, if your wife doesn't want kids at the moment, respect her choice. Don't try to force her, or worse, manipulate her for the sake of your parents' expectations. She may be married to you, but she's still an individual who has every right to have her own choices in life. Bearing kids is not the sole purpose of a marriage.
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9. It is a shame that something as prevalent as marital rape in our country isn't punishable under the law, yet. There's no excuse for domestic or verbal abuse, and of course, marital rape. Before you marry, you need to pledge to your wife that you will never abuse her in any which way, come what may. Your marriage doesn't give you the right to your wife's body. Do not consider yourself above her in any way to be entitled to exercise your power over her. Her consent matters.
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10. Lastly, Indian men must stop seeing their wife as replacements for their mothers. No, she may not look after your family like your mother may have been doing and she may not be the household cook and it is perfectly fine. She may want to focus on her career just like you. Only she gets to decide whether she wants to be a homemaker or not. And when you marry her, you give her an unsaid assurance that says you're going to support her in whatever she wants to do with her life.
Friday, November 7, 2014
പെണ്ണിനെ കീഴടക്കാൻ വേണ്ട ഗുണങ്ങൾ ...
പെണ്മനസ്സ് കീഴടക്കി ജീവിക്കണം എന്നുള്ളത് എല്ലാ പുരുഷന്മാരുടെയും ആഗ്രഹമാണ്. പദവിയും പണവും സൗന്ദര്യവുമൊന്നുമല്ല പെണ്ണിനെ വിജയിക്കാനുള്ള കാര്യങ്ങൾ. മറ്റു ചിലതാണ് .
സ്ത്രീകള് ആഗ്രഹിയ്ക്കുന്ന പ്രധാനപ്പെട്ട ഒരു ഗുണമാണ് പൗരുഷത്തോടെ പെരുമാറുക എന്നത്. സ്വന്തം അഭിപ്രയങ്ങൾ തുറന്നു പറയാൻ മടികാണിക്കുകയും അരുത്. അതുപോലെ നല്ല കാര്യങ്ങളില് അഭിനന്ദിയ്ക്കാന് മറക്കരുത്. ഇത് സ്ത്രീകളെ ആകര്ഷിയ്ക്കാനുള്ള ഒരു പ്രധാന വഴിയാണ്. റൊമാന്റിക് പുരുഷന്മാരെ സ്ത്രീകള് ഇഷ്ടപ്പെടും. തന്റെ സ്ത്രീയോടുള്ള പ്രണയം തുറന്നു പ്രകടിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന് സാധിയ്ക്കണം.
ശാരീരിക അടുപ്പവും ദാമ്പത്യത്തില് പ്രധാനം. ഇതും സ്ത്രീകള് തന്റെ പുരുഷനെ അംഗീകരിയ്ക്കാന് ഇടയാക്കുന്ന ഒരു ഗുണമാണ്. പറയാതെ തന്നെ ചലനങ്ങളിലൂടെയും ഭാവങ്ങളിലൂടെയും തന്റെ സ്ത്രീയെ മനസിലാക്കാന് സാധിയ്ക്കണം. ഇത് തന്റെ പുരുഷനെക്കുറിച്ചുള്ള സ്ത്രീയുടെ മതിപ്പു വര്ദ്ധിപ്പിയ്ക്കും.
ഉത്തരവാദിത്വങ്ങള് ഏറ്റെടുക്കുക. ഇത് സ്ത്രീകള് ആഗ്രഹിയ്ക്കുന്ന മറ്റൊരു പുരുഷഗുണമാണ്. കുട്ടികളുടെ കാര്യങ്ങളും മറ്റും ഭാര്യയുടെ മാത്രം ചുമതലയാണ് എന്ന് കരുതാതെ കാര്യങ്ങൾ ഏറ്റെടുത്തു ചെയ്യാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുക . ചെറിയ ചെറിയ കാര്യങ്ങള് മതിയാകും ചിലപ്പോള് അവരെ സന്തോഷിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന്. അപ്രതീക്ഷിതമായി രാവില ബെഡ് കോഫി നല്കുക പോലുള്ള കാര്യങ്ങള്. വീട്ടുജോലികൾ ചെയ്യണമെന്നല്ല, അപ്രതീക്ഷിതമായി അവരെ സന്തോഷിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന് എന്തെങ്കിലും ഇത്തരത്തിൽ ചെയ്താൽ തന്റെ പുരുഷന്റെ കരുതലിനെപ്പറ്റി അവര്ക്കു മതിപ്പു വര്ദ്ധിയ്ക്കും.
സ്ത്രീകള് ആഗ്രഹിയ്ക്കുന്ന പ്രധാനപ്പെട്ട ഒരു ഗുണമാണ് പൗരുഷത്തോടെ പെരുമാറുക എന്നത്. സ്വന്തം അഭിപ്രയങ്ങൾ തുറന്നു പറയാൻ മടികാണിക്കുകയും അരുത്. അതുപോലെ നല്ല കാര്യങ്ങളില് അഭിനന്ദിയ്ക്കാന് മറക്കരുത്. ഇത് സ്ത്രീകളെ ആകര്ഷിയ്ക്കാനുള്ള ഒരു പ്രധാന വഴിയാണ്. റൊമാന്റിക് പുരുഷന്മാരെ സ്ത്രീകള് ഇഷ്ടപ്പെടും. തന്റെ സ്ത്രീയോടുള്ള പ്രണയം തുറന്നു പ്രകടിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന് സാധിയ്ക്കണം.
ശാരീരിക അടുപ്പവും ദാമ്പത്യത്തില് പ്രധാനം. ഇതും സ്ത്രീകള് തന്റെ പുരുഷനെ അംഗീകരിയ്ക്കാന് ഇടയാക്കുന്ന ഒരു ഗുണമാണ്. പറയാതെ തന്നെ ചലനങ്ങളിലൂടെയും ഭാവങ്ങളിലൂടെയും തന്റെ സ്ത്രീയെ മനസിലാക്കാന് സാധിയ്ക്കണം. ഇത് തന്റെ പുരുഷനെക്കുറിച്ചുള്ള സ്ത്രീയുടെ മതിപ്പു വര്ദ്ധിപ്പിയ്ക്കും.
ഉത്തരവാദിത്വങ്ങള് ഏറ്റെടുക്കുക. ഇത് സ്ത്രീകള് ആഗ്രഹിയ്ക്കുന്ന മറ്റൊരു പുരുഷഗുണമാണ്. കുട്ടികളുടെ കാര്യങ്ങളും മറ്റും ഭാര്യയുടെ മാത്രം ചുമതലയാണ് എന്ന് കരുതാതെ കാര്യങ്ങൾ ഏറ്റെടുത്തു ചെയ്യാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുക . ചെറിയ ചെറിയ കാര്യങ്ങള് മതിയാകും ചിലപ്പോള് അവരെ സന്തോഷിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന്. അപ്രതീക്ഷിതമായി രാവില ബെഡ് കോഫി നല്കുക പോലുള്ള കാര്യങ്ങള്. വീട്ടുജോലികൾ ചെയ്യണമെന്നല്ല, അപ്രതീക്ഷിതമായി അവരെ സന്തോഷിപ്പിയ്ക്കാന് എന്തെങ്കിലും ഇത്തരത്തിൽ ചെയ്താൽ തന്റെ പുരുഷന്റെ കരുതലിനെപ്പറ്റി അവര്ക്കു മതിപ്പു വര്ദ്ധിയ്ക്കും.
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
25 Signs That Prove You Are Madly Falling In Love
What is love, baby don’t hurt me,
don’t hurt me no more. Is this song
playing in your mind? How about Te
Amo? This one? The whole point is
are you humming romantic songs all
the time these days? Confused why?
It’s simple you’re in LOVE!
Here are the signs that will clear
your confusion.
1. That person is on your mind 24
x 7
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2.You always wonder whether it’s
the right time to text them
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*Picks up phone* *Keeps it away*
3. Every time your phone rings you
skip a beat, because you expect a
call from them
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4. Your day is incomplete if you
don’t talk to them
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5. You come up with innovative
reasons to talk to them daily
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Immediately regret. What was I
thinking before saying that?
6. You save all your firsts that you
had with them
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First movie ticket, first date bill etc.,
they are memories
7. You dream of a future with them
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8. A glance at them and your heart
skips a beat
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9. You’re simply happy in life
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10. Mentally make a note of all the
things they like
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11. Look out for gifts online
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Will they like this? Or that? Okay I
need help!
12. Their interest becomes your
interest
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You like star wars? Now I like it too
*Wonders what is star wars*
13. You dress up in your best attire
every time you’re going to meet
them
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14. You talk about them all the
time
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15. One look at them and you go
like woah! he/she is so cute
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16. You search for signs that may
prove that they love you back
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17. You don’t stop thinking about
them even when you are caught up
with shit load of work
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18. Mentally you have already
decided the name of your kids
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19. You never miss a single
opportunity to meet or see them
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20. You get excited and start
jumping at the mere mention of
their name
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21. When they hug you for the first
time, you’re startled and confused
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Shit why didn’t I hug him/her back
nicely
22. You check yourself out in the
mirror
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Will they like me like that?
23. You want to look good all the
time
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You never know when you might just
run into them.
24. Fact that you’re expecting a
statement like ‘While you’re reading
this that person is totally on your
mind’, proves
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25. Fact that you’re reading this
article makes it clear
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Ready to make some confessions?
Don’t hold yourself back, it’s pretty
to fall in love. Don’t search for logic,
emotions have no justifications and
theories. Just feel what you want to
feel and express what you feel. It’s
one small life that we have, you
shouldn’t be late
Saturday, October 25, 2014
Awesome Answer By Girl
Must Read...
Boy : Do you love me more than
Ur family ?
Girl : No
Boy : Why ?
Girl : okay Listen This when i
started to walk I
fell,
U were not there to pick me up..
But my mom was..
When i went outside, U
were
not there to hold my finger.
But my dad was..
When i cried.
U didn't gave me your toys to
play..
But my brother and sister did..
My family is more precious than
anything else. . . .
Boy : Hmm (Sad)
Girl : (With Awesome
Understanding) Dont Be sad.. it
doesn't mean i dont Love u.. I
really Love U A Lot.. But Dont
compare yourself with my Family..
!!!
Friday, October 24, 2014
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Take a step
If you need me and there are one
thousand steps between us, just
take one step and I'll take nine
hundred ninety-nine to be with
you !!
You +me forever
Whenever i walk alone, i feel sHE is
walking with me and asking me 2
hold her hand...
Whenever i sit 2 study, i feel that sHe
is gazing at me and giving a cute
smile encouraging me 2 study more...
Whenever i drive, i feel sHE is sitting
behind me and giving me a tight
hug...
Whenever my mobile blinks, i feel
that sHE is holding her mobile and
msging me...
Whenever i gaze at moon, i feel sHE's
doing the same and missing me very
badly...
Whenever i get up suddenly at 3 am
or 5 am, i strongly feel that even sHE
has got up at the very same time !
P.s:- This is an AMAZING FEELING
which COMES ONLY WHEN u fall in
love.... :-):-)
Those who have one, CHERISH it !
Those who dont..., i wish they be
BLESSED with it soon!!! !!
Monday, October 20, 2014
love forever
Aashakal illathirunna ente jeevuthayaathrayil orupidi snehavumayi nee vannu. .....
Aarum illathirunna yaathrayil neeyoru koottayi maari. .....
Aarum illathirunna yaathrayil neeyoru koottayi maari. .....
Vasantham ennod kavithayezuthan paranju,
njan ezuthi. .....
Swapnangal ennod pranayikan paranju,
Njan pranayichu. ......
Pinnedenno ,
Kaalam ellam marakkan paranju. .
Pakshe , athinumaathram kazinjilla. ......
njan ezuthi. .....
Swapnangal ennod pranayikan paranju,
Njan pranayichu. ......
Pinnedenno ,
Kaalam ellam marakkan paranju. .
Pakshe , athinumaathram kazinjilla. ......
Kannuneerthullikal ittu veezunna idavaziyil enthineyo thirayunna kannumayi njan ninnu,......
Pakshe, aarum vannilla. .....
Kaathuvacha snehavum, kure nombarangalum kayyilothukki nizal veezunna ee vaziyil njan thanichaayi. .....
Ippol njanariyunnu,
Ninte nishabdatha oru poovithal kozinjuveena sathyamaanennu.........
Pinneedenno,
Mattoru Ashayeyum chirakinadiyilothukki nee yaathrayayi........
Nintedumaathramaya mattoru lokathekku, enne thanichaakki. ......
Pakshe, aarum vannilla. .....
Kaathuvacha snehavum, kure nombarangalum kayyilothukki nizal veezunna ee vaziyil njan thanichaayi. .....
Ippol njanariyunnu,
Ninte nishabdatha oru poovithal kozinjuveena sathyamaanennu.........
Pinneedenno,
Mattoru Ashayeyum chirakinadiyilothukki nee yaathrayayi........
Nintedumaathramaya mattoru lokathekku, enne thanichaakki. ......
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